Friday, January 30, 2009

North Shore Style Perspective: Dealing with Disagreements

This post was made in reflection of numerous group projects throughout my college career. Again I decided to address my strategy for working through problems not only when it concerns group projects, but also personal situations when dealing with disagreements. (Warning: Excuse the sports analogies because frankly…. I am a MAJOR sports enthusiast and I always associate strategy to sports!).

Dealing with Disagreements
The Best Offense is a Great Defense

When people fear being attacked or humiliated, they become defensive. This is only natural. I found that if the conversation gets heated, it’s good to back off and work to re-establish common ground and safety (no that was not a football related pun!). I personally “re-up” my listening efforts. It’s important that others see that you care about their goals, interests and values. If necessary, take a break however; always agree on a time to revisit the topic. I wouldn’t suggest letting the disagreement go unsettled if it’s important.

One strategy I coined for working through problems is “ACE”: Agreeing, constructing & evaluating. When arguments occur, I first look for areas of agreement. I then point out those agreements and build on common ground. Next, I evaluate and compare my perspective with the other person’s and rather than suggesting they’re wrong, I suggest that we differ. Work together to accommodate those differences.

Do you want to WIN, or do you want to solve the problem?

Move away from wanting to win and instead focus on what’s really wanted from the conversation. Maintaining this focus can help deflect defensiveness in ourselves and others (no pun intended sports enthusiast). Don’t be afraid to clarify misinterpretations and apologize. Conversations sometimes hit an impasse. When this occurs:

1) Commit to seek a MUTUAL purpose. An example would be agreeing to work together to find a compromise on dividing the workload.

2) Identify what the other person wants, through asking questions, listening and restating.

3) Create a mutual purpose or goal: “Both of us want to present well in order to get a good grade”.

4) Brainstorm new strategies and solutions (ARealist’s Favorite!).

Make a game plan.

A good end result to a crucial conversation is to have a plan, a move to action. When having a game plan athletes have to be fit and prepared. When we’re under stress, we’re more likely to fall back into negative forms of communicating. To be effective communicators, we must take care of ourselves. Having said that, do you have any tips to handling disagreements?

*image from freedomblogging

Friday, January 23, 2009

Style Sessions: Diversify your style with scarves

Now that it’s winter you’re probably going to be wearing the same couple of coats throughout the whole season. Well, the best way to diversify your style is to add accessories. A scarf will add the perfect amount of noticeable style and selection to your outfit, not to mention the extra warmth!

Personally I feel there is an elegant quality that comes with a scarf, giving the person who dons one an extra touch of Je ne sais quoi or swagger (a term used by many now).

There are so many ways you can wear a scarf. The most practical ways will not take long to learn & requires little effort. The look works for casual or business attire.

This pictorial step-by-step scarf-tying guide demonstrates various ways on how to tie the scarves for men & women (Ranging from the Ascot to the European Loop Knot):

Scarves can be purchased almost anywhere. For a trendy variety & great prices check out:
• Urban Outfitters

If you’re interested for in-store designer scarves check out:
• Barneys
• Neiman Marcus
• Nordstroms

I feel that one should never take too lightly the power of details! The last item of clothing on is more often than not the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit. These “Details” can include a scarf all the way down to the way you knot your tie. Do you know of a store that offers nice scarves? How do you wear yours?

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Thursday, January 8, 2009

Koguma Red by TokyoPlastic

mphlabs and award winning 3D animation team Tokyoplastic presents Koguma, the third character from the Tokyoplastic series to make the jump from 2D to 3D. The tubby bear in the high tech chair welcomes all visitors to the Tokyoplastic website with a steady beat and a winking flash.The red edition featuring Koguma lounging in the classic red chair complete with swivel action is made of vinyl and measures in at 8.5 inches in height. Buy it now at North Shore Style: (If you can't click the link, just copy/paste into your browser. Stock is VERY LOW so act fast!!!)

Winter Wonderland

We're going to be adding new products pretty rapidly over the next few weeks. Be on the lookout for all of the new stuff in upcoming posts. Enjoy!

Monday, January 5, 2009

Now you can “blow on” a candle?!

Think Geek has released LED Blow On-Off Candles. Under $15 these cool high tech candles are solid wax, except for the electronics (of course). There are two new things about these LED candles. You can blow them out, AND these LED candles will also blow on! Major! Plus, each candle has a switch to select either a cool blue flame, or a more realistic yellowish flame. Great to use where it is too dangerous to have open flames. You can find these candles on or

Cool Shopping.

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